Conflicts arise in all aspects of our lives and can be resolved in a variety of different ways, both formal and informal. We are all familiar with formal methods of conflict resolution such as those provided by civil and criminal law and we are all practiced in the use of informal techniques such as negotiation and bargaining. Some types of dispute, however, are not easy to resolve satisfactorily through the courts but at the same time seem difficult for people to be able to deal with themselves. The primary aim of mediation is not to reduce congestion of the courts but to repair, with the help of a professional trained in mediation, a breakdown in communication between the parties. Mediation is also aimed at assisting in the resolution of such disputes through a process of skilled and principled intervention. This method is extremely effective in family disputes, especially with children involved and reference to the court is often unnecessary.In many break-ups time needs to elapse before both parties are emotionally ready to put the past behind them. Mediation is a confidential way for you to arrive at fair, long lasting arrangements, thus reducing the pain and trauma associated with separation or divorce.
With the help of an impartial mediator, or pair of mediators, you can safely air your differences and constructively arrive at financial settlements and arrangements for children that you as a couple choose and work out, rather than having judges or lawyers making decisions for you. Mediators do not give legal advice and do not represent individuals, although mediators can be solicitors or other professionals who deal with families. When proposals are reached, a summary is drawn up by the mediator(s) which each of you will take to your own solicitor who will consider whether to turn it into a legally binding agreement, and also take care of any other legal formalities such as the divorce itself.
There is no hard and fast rule as to when be the case suitable for mediation. At an early stage, parties may be ready for a settlement process because they may not be too wedded to their positions and their relationship may not be too fractured by the litigation process. At a later stage, parties also may be ready to participate in a settlement process because discovery is mostly done, issues have been narrowed through motions to dismiss or summary judgement motions, and parties feel more knowledgeable about the likely court outcome and litigation courts. Mediation can reduce misunderstanding and bitterness and save unnecessary legal costs. It is not a substitute for legal advice and clients are encouraged to consult solicitors when necessary.
Family mediation includes the mediation of the disputes in actions for divorce, separation, annulment, establishment of paternity, probate and estate disputes, child custody or visitation, or child or spousal support. It may help the parties reach an agreement and resolve all types of family related issues. Family mediation is not, however, a therapy. It is intended for and may be of help to, any person having a conflict with a spouse, a companion, a child, a parent, or with any other family member. Family mediation helps the parties resolve their own differences on their own terms allowing them to strengthen their ability to communicate, reach solutions adapted to their unique personal circumstances, understand and appreciate the needs of other members of their family, and reach lasting agreements.
A family mediator assists couples to make joint decisions about their separate futures, the children, finance, property and other important matters.
Mediation is prevalent today in the United States
and in foreign countries,
including Canada
and England.
In some states, only two percent of filed cases are resolved by adjudication.
Many cases are sent to mediation, and approximately seventy percent settle at the mediation conference.
Most of the remaining thirty percent settle before trial, often as the result of the process begun in mediation.
For example, the number of reported mediated cases in Florida increased from 34,000 in 1989 to almost 50,000 in 1991.
This movement toward mediation reflects a relatively long-term trend in Florida's judicial system.
Mediation is especially helpful in family disputes because of the unique nature of family law. Family matters involve not only the law and facts, but also feelings.
An increase in the number of divorces
and of children born outside marriage has caused states to seek methods other than litigation to solve family disputes involving child visitation, as well as financial matters.
Mediation is one such method.
Mediation is an attractive alternative in family disputes, because it empowers the parties to devise agreements that meet their specific needs.
Unlike the adjudicatory process, the emphasis in mediation is placed on establishing a workable solution,
rather than on determining who is right or wrong.
Decisions are made by the parties, not delegated to a judge.
Mediation of divorce disputes began because of increasing court costs,
delay,
and escalation of conflict
caused by dissatisfaction with the traditional method of solving family matters through litigation. To address this dissatisfaction, lawyers and therapists offered to help their clients settle cases in a non-adversarial manner.
The mediation process helps reduce parties' hostility and children's trauma from the divorce process.
This is particularly significant when the parties are parents and will remain in contact after the marital relationship ends.
The process encourages the parties to work together, isolate the issues, and learn through cooperation.
Mediation produces stable agreements that are more likely to inspire long-term compliance by the parties.
In addition, even when the parties do not reach agreement during the mediation process, research indicates that family cases often settle prior to trial as a result of issues discussed in mediation.
Many feel that mediation is a particularly appropriate tool in the midst of interfamilial disputes. However, the appropriateness of family mediation in the context of increasing awareness of the prevalence of domestic violence has been a point of contention between those who favour the use of mediation in the family arena and those who contend that mediation can be both unfair and potentially dangerous.
Firstly, many argue that women’s lack of power relative to men in our society makes it a weak option. It is argued that due to the presence of domestic violence even the most skilled mediator will likely be not able to compensate for the disparity of power. Some argue that, in the presence of domestic violence, it is difficult to imagine a batterer coming to a mutually agreeable settlement with his partner and also that he would comply with something which he believes is unfair to him. The reality is that apparently her consent will be under duress. Since mediation is an effort for mutual decision making, presence of domestic violence makes it ill-equipped. Secondly, using mediation where there has been violence is the belief that it places the sufferers at a position where there is a high chance of future violence. The batterer gets the access to a spouse who has been avoiding contact since the separation, leading to harassing her at the mediation. Thirdly, another criticism against mediation in this context is that the mediators will not know be aware of violence and since the agreements not being enforceable and complying, there might not be a total disclosure of facts. Also, at times when the mediators uses forceful agreement tactics, he forgets the past abuse while the processing the future. A thought arises in such a situation that these mediating cases regarding domestic violence will take away violence out of the public eye. When such cases of abuse are sent to mediation, it provides an idea that violence is not a serious issue, it can be negotiated and this in turn reduces the criminal’s answerability and the seriousness of their act.
Analysing the arguments supporting mediation in spite of the presence of domestic violence include an analysis of the weigh of the benefits and harms.
First argument here being the power balance between the parties to mediation. In case of presence of domestic violence, balance of power between the parties is never possible. However, the mediators are trained to balance the power between the parties. In the field of International mediation, mediation is the preferred method for disputes where there are large differences of power.There is also a problem of detection of such cases unsuitable for mediation. Another problem would include the absence of review and complaint mechanisms. Finally, and perhaps most importantly, there is evidence to support the argument that mediation in cases of domestic violence can actually have an impact on lessening the incidents of abuse because the mediation process promotes cooperation, it can be utilized as a tool to help break the cycle of violence.
Other arguments include the fact that mediators, unlike judges, can customize the process; that mediation, unlike the adversarial system, provides a model of future interaction; that mediation can address issues the court typically would not include; and the general advantages of mediation, such as it being more efficient and less expensive than the adversarial process.
All of the problems highlighted above are magnified when mediation is mandatory (for example, court-ordered) instead of voluntary. Coercion and compulsion seriously weaken the integrity of the mediation process.
In general, family mediation is valued as an alternative method of resolving family disputes as it has the advantage of promoting methods of friendly settlement and reducing the economic and social costs of separation and divorce for families, the state and for society. For family mediation to be successful, however, the main principles of mediation must be respected, in particular the independence and impartiality of the mediator and the confidentiality of the process, for the conduct of which training is required.
Equality of the sexes must be guaranteed in family mediation as in family justice systems in general. Individual rights must not be sacrificed to cost-effectiveness or the trend towards alternative conflict resolution methods. Neither sex should be disadvantaged in family mediation because of power imbalances: be it because one party has suffered abuse, is unable to fully present its points of view (e.g. because of drug/alcohol dependency or mental health issues), or is emotionally or financially at a disadvantage (e.g. because one party has looked after the children and not worked outside the home). When patently unfair agreements are reached during family mediation resulting from these power imbalances, they must not be endorsed by the mediator or approved by a judge.
It is essential to ensure that mediation does not lead to an agreement satisfying the wishes of one party where that party dominates the other in any way whatsoever.
Viewing the number of benefits mediation provides over the adversary system, it would be rational to use mediation as a compulsory method of dispute resolution. Hence with a proper planning and training, mediation is to be made compulsory in matrimonial disputes.